Let’s Talk about Hair

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Everybody likes to have nice hair, don’t they?  Well, maybe not everybody. I’m sure I’ve seen some people who seem not to care about having nice hair. But let’s call those people the ‘exceptions’.

So, excluding the ‘exceptions’, we love having nice hair, don’t we?  And we love it when people comment on how great our hair, or our latest haircut, looks.

So, as I write this, in April 2020, most of the world is locked down, or self-isolating, and only the ‘essential’ services and shops are operating.  That means, supermarkets, chemists, doctors etc.

The hairdressers/barbers/beauty salons are closed.

All of them.

So, after 3 – 4  weeks without a hairdresser, or much longer, depending on the last time they went, people are starting to panic. 

Yes, panic.

Because they can’t get their hair done.  In lock down.  When they’re not allowed out anyway, except to go to the supermarket.

People (maybe even you) are saying that one of the first things that they’re going to do after lock down is go and get their hair done professionally.  I even saw online someone asking if there were any hairdressers that will make a home visit during lockdown.

I accept that some people are still working, or have online meetings with their colleagues, and so a degree of ‘neatness’ is required in those cases.

My hair

Those who are reading this who know me in real life might be surprised to learn that I haven’t been to a hairdresser since 2002.  Since 2002, nobody has cut my hair except for me. 

Or they might not be surprised, because my hair is hardly ever ‘perfect’.

In fact, more often than not it’s a mess!

That’s right.  I cut my own hair and have done for 18 years.

Why?  I hear you ask.

Because, in 2002 I had time to think about a lot of things.  I went through a personal disaster, and for me, the whole world changed.  And I started to look at things differently.

I simplified a lot of things in my life. A bit like I simplified my makeup routine.

One of the things I realised was that there was no good reason to pay someone to cut my hair every time it ‘needed’ it.

And so, I’ve cut my own hair ever since.

Of course, over the years my hair has mostly been quite long.  Cutting long hair is much easier than cutting short hair.  I know, because when I was about 15 years old, I cut my long hair into a very short ‘boy’ haircut – in my bedroom without any help.  It took ages to do it, and if I remember correctly I grew it out immediately because I realised that it would be really difficult to maintain the cut.

I understand that it’s also really difficult to cut curly hair, so maybe if you’ve got curly hair you wouldn’t want to try cutting it yourself.  But, then again, why not?

I’ve cut my own hair in different ways.  I’ve cut my fringe.  I’ve layered the sides to ‘frame’ my face. 

I’ve layered all my hair, not just the sides but the top and the back too.  I’ve cut it straight across at the back.  I’ve trimmed it so many times I’ve lost count.

The view of the back and sides of my hair – 2017

Mistakes

Of course, it’s difficult cutting your own hair, and sometimes you make mistakes.

I remember once I cut my hair in the wrong direction, and was left with a very noticeable straight line horizontally along the side of my head, close to my skull.  I don’t know how I managed to do something so stupid. And so, I was forced to wear my hair tied ‘up’ for about 5 months until it grew long enough to not be so noticeable.

I’ve also cut my fringe too short.  Many times.  If you know me in real life, you’ve probably seen me with a very short fringe that looked a bit strange.

But, you know what?  It doesn’t matter.  It’s only hair!

I’m not going to give you any hair cutting advice, except to tell you to take your time and think twice, cut once.  Plus you can find plenty of Youtube videos about it.  Find one you like and follow the instructions to get the ‘look’ you want.  It’s really not hard.

Hair washing

What kind of shampoo do you use?  Do you use the same one all the time, or do you alternate between two or more different ones?  And do you also use conditioner?  And hair moisturiser?  Mousse?  Or any other hair products?

Well, I used to use a lot of things in my hair.  Especially hair spray for my fringe, and also when I had shorter hair.

Not any more.

I want to tell you about how I wash my hair.

I rarely use shampoo.  I mean, I don’t even buy it anymore, so the only time I use it is when I’m travelling and in a hotel and need to wash my hair.

In 2015 I decided to stop using shampoo.  I didn’t like the ingredients, it’s full of chemicals.  Just like a lot of things we use, but hey, one thing at a time.

So, I did a little bit of research, and found that I could ‘wash’ my hair with bi-carbonate of soda, and ‘rinse’ or ‘condition’ it with vinegar.

And so I did just that.

For my shoulder length hair I put about 3 heaped teaspoons of soda in a container, and when in the shower I add about ½ cup of warm water.  Then tip it over my head, rub it in for a while, then rinse it all out under the shower.

When it’s all out (be sure to rinse out all of it until it doesn’t still feel gritty) I put some vinegar into the container (rinse the container first, so there’s no remnants of soda in it).  I prefer to use apple cider vinegar but any vinegar will do.  I put about ¼ of a cup of vinegar, then add warm water to make about 1 – 1 ½ cups in total. Then, I tip it over my head.

I leave it in for a couple of minutes then rinse it out.  Some people say you can leave it in without rinsing at all. 

My hair never smells like vinegar, so yours probably won’t either.

Of course, my hair never smells like the smell of shampoo either.  It kind of smells like hair now.

And, by the way, the days in between ‘washing’, if my hair feels a bit dirty or oily, I just wet it while I’m in the shower, no product at all, and it comes out fresh and clean.

Dying your hair

Honestly, I don’t know much about this subject.  The only time I’ve ever dyed my hair was when I was 14 years old.  I dyed it burgundy (a kind of purple/plum colour).  It made me look very different.  My own mother didn’t recognise me.

I haven’t dyed my hair since, and see no need to.  We all have the hair colour we were born with, so I don’t understand why we feel like we have to change it.

I hated the colour of my hair when I was a kid.  It was orange!  But, apart from that one time dying it burgundy, I haven’t changed the colour of it.

And, I’m even embracing my grey hair as it slowly takes over.  It’s natural.  It’s me.

I wonder why most of the women I see these days (yes, I say ‘most’ because I think it’s more than 50%), dye their hair.  Why don’t we like and accept our natural hair colour?

What about you?

I’m happy to have my hair as it is naturally. With its asymmetrical cut done by me (asymmetrical because I can never get both sides the same!). Without the fake smell of flowers or chemicals, or whatever, that comes from using commercial shampoos and other hair products. 

And, although my hair isn’t really shiny and is sometimes a bit frizzy (because I don’t use ‘products’ on it), it’s still hair. 

There are far more important things to spend our time, money, and energy on than our hair.  Don’t you agree?

Or, maybe you don’t agree, and that’s fine.  We’re all in different situations in life, and we all have different needs.  So, of course, what’s ok for me isn’t necessarily going to be ok for you.

But personally, I’m happy with what I’m doing.

What are your hair care tips?  Do you stress over how your hair looks and need a professional to deal with it?  Do you prefer using commercial hair products, or do you use something more natural? Share your hair care advice with us in the comments below. 

Author: Cheryl

I'm an Australian woman who is now living in a village in rural Bulgaria. I lived for 12 years in Moscow, Russian Federation, working as an English language teacher. My current loves are my husband and my vegetable garden.

22 thoughts on “Let’s Talk about Hair”

  1. Good for you, Christine! I get my hair highlighted and cut about every eight weeks, and I enjoy that bit of pampering. I had mine done right before the lockdown started, so I have another four weeks until I am scheduled to go again. We’ll see if they’re back in business by then. Who knows? In truth, I’m not too worried about it. Whatever happens, I’ll make it work. I miss my grandchildren and my gym more than my hairdresser. Take care and stay safe!

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    1. Hi Christie, I love your hair, it’s gorgeous! If you like a bit of pampering then the salon’s one of the best places for it! I’m not a big fan of people touching me (can’t stand the thought of a massage, not even by my husband), so maybe that’s why I don’t feel the need for a hairdresser. I hope you’ll get to see your grandkids soon, it can’t go on for much longer. You take care too! 🙂

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  2. Hi Cheryl – I take my hat off to you for being able to cut all your hair. I often trim my fringe but haven’t tackled cutting the layers that are through mine. I also get some foils done at the hairdresser every couple of months (and a cut) to make my hair less mousey and give it a bit of a lift. It’s a treat to have a professional do it, but that being said, I use the hairdresser at the senior cits for half the cost of my local hair salon – and if lockdown continues for another few weeks I might even have a stab at colouring it myself – I’m thinking “magenta”!
    Thanks for linking up with us at MLSTL and I’ve shared on my SM ?

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    1. Hi Leanne, I think I just reached the point where hair was such a small part of life that I put the importance of having a ‘good’ cut way down the list of things to deal with. I’m so used to it now I don’t think about it, if I see the ends are a bit too raggedy I just reach for the scissors! It’s kind of liberating, really. And honestly, it usually grows quickly enough to cover any ‘mistakes’. Have a go, it’s fun! Magenta is your colour, go for it! 🙂 x

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  3. My dil (she’s a beautician) did a facetime with me and talked me through cutting my hair and I really like it! I’ve been coloring my own hair for YEARS with my husband’s assistance with the back. I have switched out some of my more expensive makeup for drugstore makeup. I’m not regretting any of it.

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    1. Hi Rita, you sound like my kind of gal! Once we realise that we can ‘do without’ the expensive stuff, life becomes so much easier, doesn’t it? I’ve stopped buying $70.00 50ml pot of ‘eye cream’ and substituted coconut oil, and I think my skin loves me for it! I just love the freedom of not worrying about things! So nice to see you here! Thanks for stopping by and reading my blog. 🙂

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  4. Oh my gosh, Cheryl, I love this post!! What a brilliant idea to put all of the photos of yourself too…This is so funny as Tess has just cut Brians hair (I haven’t been brave enough to let her near mine yet) but she did a brilliant job!) lots of love to you XX

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    1. Hi Liz! Thanks for your kind words. 🙂 It was a good exercise to collect all the different photos of myself – I’m using them to decide what to do with my hair next. Your hair is great, but as I said in the post, I think short hair is much more difficult to maintain if you’re cutting it yourself. But why not let Tess have a go?! By the way, my daughter is also Tess (Tessa). Have a great weekend! Love to you too. xx

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  5. Hi Cheryl. I had my hair done in mid- March, right after they shut down all the salons and all the buses to Tbilisi. but my stylist agreed to do my hair in her friend’s salon, where they opened up just for me. I use Loreal shampoo for color-treated hair since I’ve been getting color since my late 40’s. I’m hoping that the lockdown will not go beyond May 22nd, since by then I will need my cut and color. I admire you for going chemical-free on your hair and for being able to cut it yourself. I don’t have enough confidence. I’m also a bit of a perfectionist. Thanks for sharing another interesting post. I’ll talk with you soon. xx

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    1. Hi Christina, your hair is fabulous! It looks so thick and healthy. My hair is really thin and getting thinner as I get older! Yes, I saw that you managed to have your own personal salon visit – well done! I’m slowly trying to reduce the chemical toxins in my life, not completely, but little by little. I hope you get to the salon again when you need to, this surely can’t go on for much longer. Have a great day and thanks for the comment. 🙂 x

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  6. A very interesting post and I must say your hair looks great! I’m officially growing my hair while lockdown is on and actually enjoying seeing the odd silvery bits coming through. I do enjoy the hairdressers for a bit of pampering but don’t ‘need’ it like many seem to do.

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    1. Hi Debbie, thanks for stopping by, and for the compliment. It’s a great idea to grow your hair during lock down, you have plenty of time to experiment. As you can probably guess by the photos in my post, I really like tying my hair back, but only half of it. But there’s so many options when you have long hair. I also love my ‘silvery bits’ as you call them, although it has taken me a long time to embrace them. 🙂 Have a great weekend! 🙂

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  7. Hi Cheryl, kudos to you for the totally natural hair you wear! Although I’m not waiting for the moment I can get a haircut once again, I’m also not ready to pick up the shears, either. My hair is very naturally curly and there have been only a few professionals over the years who could cut it properly. But, I’ve gotten rid of the hair color and am now my natural gray(‘ish) color. So it’s a step forward for me. Thanks for sharing your philosophy. Shared on SM #MLSTL

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    1. Hi Candi, thanks for reading my post on hair. I love curly hair, always wished I had it as a child. My daughter’s hair is really curly, but she keeps it cut really short because she has 2 small boys and no time for hair care! I’ve noticed recently that my hair is suddenly a lot greyer, wondering if the stress of the past month or so has had an effect. Glad that you’re embracing your natural colour! 🙂

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  8. I consider my hair an accessory and like to change it around. Considering that my best friend was a hairdresser made it all that much easier. Every 6 months or so I had a different cut or a different color. I’d start getting antsy and wanting change. But for the past three years, I’ve been a silver/white hair color and all I’ve been changing are the haircuts. Sometimes I’d add pink or purple, but those washed out in a few weeks. And now…I’m bored. I’ve been growing my hair out for the last few months, but in lockdown, I’ve found a new desire to start coloring it again. Time will tell if I’m happy with it or not. (I have dye on my hair right now.)

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    1. Hi Jennifer, how great to have a hairdresser for a best friend! I think if I had the same I’d also be experimenting and changing my hair cut and colour regularly! I think that the temporary colours are kind of a good idea, if you get tired of it at least it’s not going to be there for too long. 🙂

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  9. This is really cool, because I had been thinking about you as lately as this morning and wondering how you were doing. Loved the post too, I don’t think I am ready to give up shampoo. I don’t think my hair h as grown much in lockdown but it has lightened up. At my last haircut when I suggested that I had some grey hair, the hair dresser countered with “White” I wondered if she had been talking with my husband, but she was standing behind me after all. Glad to hear from you and glad that you are safe, well and happy. Blessings, Michele

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    1. Hi Michele! So nice to see you here. 🙂 I also wasn’t sure about giving up shampoo at first, but every time I ‘wash’ my hair with soda and a rinse with vinegar, I wish I’d discovered it when I was a lot younger (before I spent all that money on shampoo!). It’s funny about grey hair, in French they say it’s ‘white’ and not grey, which makes it sound a little exotic! Embrace your hair, whether it’s grey, white, or something else! Thanks for the blessings, I hope you and your family are well, too. 🙂 x

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  10. I have a mop of very thick very curly hair that grows very quickly. I had a lot of it chopped off about 2 months ago (to just below shoulder heigh – any shorter than that and it grows pretty much sideways unless it’s really short in which case it needs cutting every 3 weeks) and at least now I don’t get knots and dreadlocks. I have the roots done every 4 weeks and have a trim every 2nd visit. I contemplated going grey when the hairdressers were closed, but decided that I wasn’t ready for that. Not yet.

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    1. Hi Joanne, oh I envy you for your thick curly hair! Mine’s incredibly thin, but at least it’s manageable! My daughter has thick-ish very curly hair and keeps it as short as she possibly can. Going grey isn’t at all the end of the world that I thought it would be, but you’ll know when you’re ready to wear it yourself. 🙂 Have a lovely weekend and thanks for stopping by.

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